You should only have 4 connections to the alternator (5me or 5mge).
1. The +B terminal that delivers current from the alternator. This should have a thick white wire coming from it. This is a separate terminal with a nut on it to do up the white wire.
The other three connections below are all through a 3 pin plug.
2. The IG terminal. This is the feed from the ignition switch (via the IG relay) to the alternator. This should be Black/Yellow.
3. The S terminal. This is what the alternator uses to measure the battery voltage and determine what voltage it should output. This is normally black.
4. The L terminal. This is what drives the charge lamp. With the ignition on, and the plug disconected from the alternator if you ground this terminal, the charge lamp should come on.
With a mutimeter you can identify IG. Then sort out which one L is, the one left is then S.