thats not normal, there is no such thing as a 4AGE AFM in australia, and if you have one, you have my sympathy.
my car starts immeduiately every time, and i'm not using a circuit opening relay.
my relay is triggered by the "engine running" fuel pump output, and triggers after one or two revolutions of the engine.
Blue steel: While I don't dispute what you said about the AFM not being the standard Australian version (How many 4AGE's that people install these days are ADM?) , I fail to see how you have helped here. You say you are not using a circuit open relay, so basically any info you have offered is pretty much worthless to this post without further explanation. Yet in the next sentence you say you are using a relay of some kind. Your motor starts first time every time? Good for you.